Integrated · Piece 2 of 3
Make sense of your conflicting feelings
You might be fed up with putting something off. Or ready for a change but unsure what comes next. Perhaps you’re choosing between two things you care about, and neither choice feels right.
Telling yourself to “just get on with it” won’t tell you why you hesitate.
In this audio, I’ll guide you through listening to both sides of that conflict. You’ll explore what each wants, what each fears, and how you feel toward them. That gives you more to consider when you decide what to do next.
Listen to the guided meditation
Choose one situation you feel torn about. Find somewhere you can sit without interruption, and pause whenever you need more time. Please listen while you’re somewhere you can give this your attention, rather than while driving.
You can hear a concern without letting it decide for you
A part of you may want to finish the project, change careers, or commit to a relationship. Another may object.
It’s tempting to side with whichever sounds more sensible and tell the other to shut up. But that leaves you arguing with yourself before you’ve heard what the objection is.
During this practice, you’ll give each side time to explain itself. You may find a fear you hadn’t noticed, a cost you need to consider, or a wish you’ve been quick to dismiss.
You don’t have to force a decision by the end. You can listen to both sides and still be the one who chooses.
After you listen
Write down what each side hoped for and what each feared.
Then consider one small step you could take with that in mind. You might try a task you’ve avoided, find out more about a career you’re considering, or ask a question you’ve been putting off.
If you still feel torn, write down what remains unresolved. You can return to the audio with that question.
Next · Piece 3 of 3
What Other People Can See About You That You Can’t
A decision can feel clear until it’s time to act.
In Piece 3, we’ll look at how practice with other people can help you catch a familiar reaction as it happens and try a different response—so you can put your choices into practice when they matter.