Character
is forged in
the crucible
of adversity

Success lies on
the other side
of unfamiliarity
and discomfort

just because
it’s different
doesn’t mean
it’s impossible

do something
today that your
future self
would thank
you for

   fear
is never
an excuse
not to act

David Tian Ph.D. | Certified Leadership Coach & Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner

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David Tian Ph.D. | Certified Leadership Coach & Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner

David Tian, Ph.D., is a Leadership Coach, Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner, former university professor, and a uniquely qualified international specialist in human behavior and emotional intelligence, and a global educator, researcher, speaker, and author.

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