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Is Marriage Worth It for Successful People? The Data Says It Depends Entirely on Whom You Marry
Most successful people in midlife look at marriage as a financial risk, and they are half right. The wrong spouse can cost you decades of your peace and half of what you built. The mistake is to blame marriage. The Harvard Study of Adult Development, the longest study of adult life ever conducted, found that married men lived seven to seventeen years longer than unmarried ones. But the same research shows that men in unhappy marriages carry a twenty-one percent higher risk of dying from any cause than men in happy ones. A good marriage adds years. A bad one takes them. The question is not whether to marry. It is whether you have found the partner whose partnership in your life over the next decades would give you back at least double what you brought to them.
The Lie About Money That’s Costing You Your Life | (#089) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
A toxic and false belief has been dominating business culture for decades: Money is the byproduct of value creation. It sounds like common sense, but it is one of the most damaging things a thinking person can believe.
This episode takes the belief apart and shows the moral claim hiding inside the causal one. The cost of getting this wrong is steep: you spend thirty years hounded by a number you can never reach, unable to rest, unable to truly enjoy what you have built — and then arrive at sixty to discover the prize the belief promised was never there.
How to Know If Your Partner Is the Right Person For You: What Your Dating History Is Actually Telling You
Most people, trying to decide whether to get serious with someone, ask whether their partner is the right person. The question feels like the important one. It is also the wrong one, or at least the secondary one. The primary one is about the person doing the asking. The qualities in your partner that first drew you in are usually the same qualities you eventually try to suppress in them, because they’re the same qualities you suppressed in yourself a long time ago. The variable in your dating life has never been the partner. This essay is about what it has been.