Dec 5, 2025 | Essays
A client of mine—let’s call him Michael—lost his father in a tragic accident when he was seven. His dad, knowing life can turn without warning, had prepared a trust fund large enough to cover every material need Michael would ever have. By every conventional measure,...
Dec 4, 2025 | Essays
There are moments—both in history and in everyday life—when cruelty looks more efficient than integrity. When deception gets rewarded. When the ruthless rise. When the people causing the most harm walk away with applause, wealth, or influence. At those moments, the...
Dec 3, 2025 | Essays
Every generation has its taboos.For some, it was rock music.For others, it was interracial marriage.Today, it’s the sight of two consenting adults enjoying sex without shame. The outrage comes fast and loud—often from people who claim to stand for morality. They say...
Oct 27, 2025 | Essays
For over a decade, both liberal academics and conservative critics have shared a false assumption about my past work in attraction and relationships. They believed it was all about tricks—ways to “get one over on the other person,” polished routines to tip...
Oct 25, 2025 | Essays
For years, I’ve had critics point to the old pickup artist vocabulary—terms like “shit tests” and “bitch shields”—as proof of misogyny. Here’s the truth: the real problem with those terms isn’t just that they might be offensive. It’s that they’re false. And if we...
Oct 10, 2025 | Essays
For almost twenty years, critics have accused me of deception because of my past work coaching men in dating and relationships. The charge was simple: that I had to trick women, that I had to pretend to be someone I wasn’t, that I had to manipulate my way into...
