Oct 27, 2025 | Essays
For over a decade, both liberal academics and conservative critics have shared a false assumption about my past work in attraction and relationships. They believed it was all about tricks—ways to “get one over on the other person,” polished routines to tip...
Oct 25, 2025 | Essays
For years, I’ve had critics point to the old pickup artist vocabulary—terms like “shit tests” and “bitch shields”—as proof of misogyny. Here’s the truth: the real problem with those terms isn’t just that they might be offensive. It’s that they’re false. And if we...
Oct 10, 2025 | Essays
For almost twenty years, critics have accused me of deception because of my past work coaching men in dating and relationships. The charge was simple: that I had to trick women, that I had to pretend to be someone I wasn’t, that I had to manipulate my way into...
Oct 5, 2025 | Essays
When most people think of morality, they imagine light against dark. Good against evil. A noble self against a shadow that must be denied. But here’s the truth: the parts of yourself you’re most ashamed of—the envy, the lust, the anger, the pettiness—are not your...
Sep 20, 2025 | Essays
When most people hear the word “morality,” their minds jump straight to sex. Not generosity. Not justice. Not compassion. Sex. That knee-jerk association says a lot about our history. Even in secular, educated circles, morality still carries the weight of religious...
Sep 8, 2025 | Essays
When most people hear the word “compassion,” they imagine softness. A pitying glance. A hand on the shoulder. A weakness that slows you down in the fast, competitive world of achievement. But compassion isn’t weakness. It’s not pity. And it’s not optional. Compassion...
