
Why “Working on Yourself” Can Make Things Worse | (#032) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
There are certain emotional scripts you learned in your formative years that are running your life today. These emotional patterns aren’t the enemy. They don’t mean that you’re broken as a person or flawed in an insidious way.
Instead, it simply means that you’re not aware of these emotional scripts.
But if you’re been stuck in the same loops for years, trying harder, doing the same thing over and over, something deeper is necessary. In fact, gritting your teeth and trying harder will only give these emotional scripts more power over you and your behavior.

You’re Not Broken, Your Mind Just Learned the Wrong Lesson | (#031) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
There are certain emotional scripts you learned in your formative years that are running your life today. These emotional patterns aren’t the enemy. They don’t mean that you’re broken as a person or flawed in an insidious way.
Instead, it simply means that you’re not aware of these emotional scripts.
But if you’re been stuck in the same loops for years, trying harder, doing the same thing over and over, something deeper is necessary. In fact, gritting your teeth and trying harder will only give these emotional scripts more power over you and your behavior.

Why You’re Burnt Out, Unfulfilled, & Still Not Enough (& How Wu Wei Fixes It) | (#030) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
Most people, and high achievers in particular, suffer from a paradoxical problem:
Trying too hard backfires and causes your deepest, darkest fears to realize. When high achievers are confronted with a problem in their personal or professional life, their first instinct is to push harder, work longer, go on more dates.
They’re desperately searching for connection, peace, joy, and love. But they don’t realize that their need for control keeps these forever out of their reach.
But there’s an ancient solution to this problem: Wu Wei, acting without inner friction.

How to Find Peace By Leaning Into Chaos | (#029) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers with David Tian, Ph.D.
Most high achievers have been sold a lie: that Chaos is a threat that will take everything from you, and the only way to handle it is with more control.
But if you look into any high achiever’s life, relationships, or business, you’ll see a similar through line: They’re quietly miserable no matter how much material success they’ve accumulated.
Why does this same story play out across so many lives?
Because when you try to control chaos, you cut yourself off from half of life. Peace doesn’t come from a lack of chaos, it comes in the midst of chaos. And chaos is the raw material of growth, creativity, love, and leadership.

How to Create Deep Connection, No Matter Who’s Around You | (#028) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
If you wanted to grow bigger muscles, you could read all the strength training books you wanted. But until you go to the gym and apply your knowledge to your body, your muscles will never grow.
That’s the same way the muscle of connection works. But for some reason, high achievers especially are prone to fall into the trap of thinking they can build connection by listening to podcasts, reading books, or even going into individual therapy.
This misses the mark that connection is a skill. And the only way to improve at a skill is to practice it with other people.
In today’s show, you’ll discover why connection is a skill that can be honed with practice, how to start practicing it (even if it feels uncomfortable), and what your life could be like with intentional practice.

Why Success Kills Connection (& What To Do About It) | (#027) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
Most people who struggle with connection chalk it up to a personality trait. They think their personality, which benefits them in other areas, just makes connection harder for them.
But this is actually a defense mechanism in disguise, created by a protective part of you that was created by an old wound. This wounded part of you whispers into your ear that connection will come if you just hustle more, achieve more accolades, or have more material success.
But this protective part of you is stuck in old beliefs that protected you in your formative years, but will sabotage you in adult life.
That’s the bad news.
The good news?

The Hidden Reason You’re Unfulfilled (Even If You’re Successful) | (#026) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
Successful high achievers think they can always rely on themselves more than on other people. This idea helped fuel their success.
But it’s also why their success isn’t fulfilling, and why they feel on the verge of burnout.
In fact, a deep-rooted drive to do everything yourself is a sign that something’s off under the surface. Isolation isn’t a strength. It’s a slow acting poison that leads to burnout, frustration, and an early grave.
And you know what?
If you resonate with this, you’ve just encountered a problem that you cannot solve alone.
Why?

Why You’re Not Happy & Fulfilled (Even Though You “Should” Be) | (#025) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
If you’re a high achiever, you probably have a tendency to prioritize work above all else. Results are the most important thing to you. And all the other stuff—like deep relationships that offer true connection—are treated as “nice to haves.”
But this is perhaps the biggest tragedy a high achiever could face. Because when something hits the fan one day (whether a gut-wrenching divorce, a paralyzing business problem, or even achieving a massive milestone), there’s nobody you care about whom you can really turn to. Nobody who actually cares about your triumphs or tribulations.
Worst part?
You never feel truly fulfilled because you can’t be fulfilled without connection. Instead, you just feel empty. Like something deep is missing.
And you know what?

Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (& How to Attract the Right Ones) | (#024) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
Most people chalk up their attraction problems to external sources: Maybe they think they need better strategies and skills. Or they believe that dating apps are against them. Or maybe it’s just that they’re unlucky.
Here’s the bad news:
If you’ve been struggling with attraction, confidence, or relationships, the problem isn’t some external force working against you. The real issue is the unconscious patterns, your “Relationship Blueprint,” controlling your life.
Worst part?
Since your mind creates your “Relationship Blueprint” early in your formative years, most people don’t even realize it’s pulling all the strings. And until you face these unconscious patterns, the same unconscious patterns will keep popping up and sabotaging your relationships.
But I also have good news:

The Dark Psychology Behind Attraction Strategies (and Why They Always Backfire) | (#023) Beyond Success: Psychology & Philosophy for Achievers, with David Tian, Ph.D.
As a former player myself, I know first-hand how crushing the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” is. Almost all players fall into this psychological trap that only leads to rage, doubt, depression, and despair.
But you know what?
It’s not just players who are at risk of falling into this sabotaging cycle. Any one who builds his or her identity around external validation is at risk of falling into this deep emotional hole, where compulsive self-destruction and total emptiness become your new normal.
To drive home just how devastating the “Grandiosty-Shame Cycle” is, today’s episode looks at a real life example of how this cycle plays out. In today’s show, we’re analyzing the tragic rise and fall of one of the most famous pickup artists in the world, Erik von Markovik, better known as Mystery.