If you’re a high achiever, you probably have a tendency to prioritize work above all else. Results are the most important thing to you. And all the other stuff—like deep relationships that offer true connection—are treated as “nice to haves.”
But this is perhaps the biggest tragedy a high achiever could face. Because when something hits the fan one day (whether a gut-wrenching divorce, a paralyzing business problem, or even achieving a massive milestone), there’s nobody you care about whom you can really turn to. Nobody who actually cares about your triumphs or tribulations.
Worst part?
You never feel truly fulfilled because you can’t be fulfilled without connection. Instead, you just feel empty. Like something deep is missing.
And you know what?

Most people chalk up their attraction problems to external sources: Maybe they think they need better strategies and skills. Or they believe that dating apps are against them. Or maybe it’s just that they’re unlucky.
Here’s the bad news:
If you’ve been struggling with attraction, confidence, or relationships, the problem isn’t some external force working against you. The real issue is the unconscious patterns, your “Relationship Blueprint,” controlling your life.
Worst part?
Since your mind creates your “Relationship Blueprint” early in your formative years, most people don’t even realize it’s pulling all the strings. And until you face these unconscious patterns, the same unconscious patterns will keep popping up and sabotaging your relationships.
But I also have good news:

As a former player myself, I know first-hand how crushing the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” is. Almost all players fall into this psychological trap that only leads to rage, doubt, depression, and despair.
But you know what?
It’s not just players who are at risk of falling into this sabotaging cycle. Any one who builds his or her identity around external validation is at risk of falling into this deep emotional hole, where compulsive self-destruction and total emptiness become your new normal.
To drive home just how devastating the “Grandiosty-Shame Cycle” is, today’s episode looks at a real life example of how this cycle plays out. In today’s show, we’re analyzing the tragic rise and fall of one of the most famous pickup artists in the world, Erik von Markovik, better known as Mystery.

People who want to improve at dating often fall into the trap of tactics. And they fundamentally believe that their lack of success is not because of them, but because of the modern dating world.
So they seek to “optimize” individual tactics involved in modern dating—fixing their profile on dating apps, becoming more successful in their career, hitting the gym and getting a six-pack—without ever confronting the real root cause of their dating failures:
Themselves!
Of course, this route is far easier than confronting your deep-rooted emotional issues. You may even experience short-term successes too: More dates, getting laid more often, and being surrounded by beautiful women more often.
But this short-term success comes with a cost…

Does your relationship feel like it’s dying a slow death? The passion is gone. The original spark has been extinguished. And resentment for your partner may even be surfacing.
Here’s the truth: This is a “stress test” all relationships go through. But if you’re a people pleaser, then, well, this is usually where your relationship goes to die.
Why?
Because people pleasers see the signs of a relationship dying and unknowingly double down on the exact things that drove the relationship to the graveyard in the first place. This only suffocates it faster.
So, how do you handle this relationship problem in a way that fosters attraction, commitment, and enjoyment in your relationship instead of smothering it?

When you want to become more successful in business, relationships, or life, most people focus on tactics, strategies, and skills.
But there’s a bigger obstacle to your success than your lack of tactics, strategies, and skills… In fact, without first addressing this obstacle, success will never come easy, no matter how hard you keep pushing.
Why?
Because the obstacle you have to overcome is yourself. And no amount of pushing, prodding, or plotting can help you outrun yourself.
That’s the bad news.
The good news?

Have you ever reached a high point in life (a major win, a big breakthrough, or a massive milestone)… only to feel like the rug’s been pulled from underneath you?
Well, I have good news and bad news:
If you find yourself second guessing yourself, procrastinating, picking fights with loved ones, or just a sinking, uneasy feeling that shows up whenever an opportunity knocks on your door, you might be going through the “Upper Limit Problem.”
The “Upper Limit Problem” happens when emotional energies from your childhood (and sometimes, from your parents’, grandparents’, and even ancestors’ childhoods) creates a heavy cloud over your emotional mind. It’s vague, yet oppressive. And it can sabotage relationships, suffocate success, and stifle fulfillment and freedom.

Most people never stop to question today’s topic. But it silently poisons relationships, teams, and even your own peace of mind.
Worst part?
It masquerades as an innocent and harmless way to blow off steam. But it actually erodes trust, creates drama, and keeps pressing problems unresolved.
Of course, we’re talking about gossip today. Not only is it harmful to anyone you gossip to and about, but it’s insidious to you too.

Most people never stop to question today’s topic. But it silently poisons relationships, teams, and even your own peace of mind.
Worst part?
It masquerades as an innocent and harmless way to blow off steam. But it actually erodes trust, creates drama, and keeps pressing problems unresolved.
Of course, we’re talking about gossip today. Not only is it harmful to anyone you gossip to and about, but it’s insidious to you too.

Going through a breakup or recovering from a divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences you’ll ever face.
It’s always messy and layered. And if you don’t approach it with the right mindset, you’ll fall back into the old patterns and habits that destroyed your previous relationships.
That’s the bad news.
The good news?