Oct 25, 2025 | Essays
For years, I’ve had critics point to the old pickup artist vocabulary—terms like “shit tests” and “bitch shields”—as proof of misogyny. Here’s the truth: the real problem with those terms isn’t just that they might be offensive. It’s that they’re false. And if we...
Oct 10, 2025 | Essays
For almost twenty years, critics have accused me of deception because of my past work coaching men in dating and relationships. The charge was simple: that I had to trick women, that I had to pretend to be someone I wasn’t, that I had to manipulate my way into...
Oct 5, 2025 | Essays
When most people think of morality, they imagine light against dark. Good against evil. A noble self against a shadow that must be denied. But here’s the truth: the parts of yourself you’re most ashamed of—the envy, the lust, the anger, the pettiness—are not your...
Sep 20, 2025 | Essays
When most people hear the word “morality,” their minds jump straight to sex. Not generosity. Not justice. Not compassion. Sex. That knee-jerk association says a lot about our history. Even in secular, educated circles, morality still carries the weight of religious...
Sep 8, 2025 | Essays
When most people hear the word “compassion,” they imagine softness. A pitying glance. A hand on the shoulder. A weakness that slows you down in the fast, competitive world of achievement. But compassion isn’t weakness. It’s not pity. And it’s not optional. Compassion...
Sep 4, 2025 | Essays
Most people assume courage means fearlessness. Charging into battle without hesitation. Speaking up without breaking a sweat. Quitting your job with no second thoughts. But that’s a cartoon version of courage. Real courage is acting even when fear is screaming at you...
