My clients are founders, senior leaders, and high achievers who have built something substantial but then run into a question their competence cannot settle: whether to sell, whether to marry the person they are with, why they keep meeting quality people yet end up alone anyway, or what the next five years should actually be for now that money no longer decides it.
None of that is an emergency. But enough depends on their judgment now that being unclear about themselves has started to cost more money and more years.
The same person is making every one of these decisions
You are not one person at the office and a different person at home. The fear that stops someone from delegating is usually the same fear that stops him from depending on a partner. The habits that built the company are the habits ruining the marriage.
And almost nobody around you can see it. They are not holding back on purpose, either. Your board sees the operator. Your friends see whoever shows up for dinner. Your family sees the one who comes home tired. Each of them holds a part, but none of them holds the whole. Neither do you, because the pattern is nearly invisible from within the perspective of the person repeating it.
So a conversation that starts with whether to sell can end up at your father. And a conversation that starts with a breakup can end up at why you have arranged your life so that you never need anyone.
What I am, and what I am not
Yes, we may go into your childhood, your grief, and the shame you have never said out loud, but only when they are affecting a decision you actually have to make. Psychotherapy can treat understanding yourself as the destination. In my work, it is only the halfway point. And I will tell you what I actually think instead of just reflecting the question back at you.
I do not do roadmaps, cap tables, or hiring plans, and the people you already pay for those are better at them than I am.
But bring me a decision where both the upside and the downside are large enough to change the next decade of your life, and that is an excellent use of me. It's not because I know your market, but because whatever is distorting a decision that size is almost never in the spreadsheet. Maybe it is your need to be the person who was right. Maybe it is what you are afraid of becoming if the thing you built stops needing you. Maybe it is closing the door on options to go all-in on the one chance at the gold.
And I am not here to help you get what you want without asking whether it is worth having. If you become calmer, sharper, and more persuasive, you should still look carefully at what it is you will become better at doing. Most advisers skip that question. But skipping it is how capable people spend another decade succeeding at a life they would never have truly wanted.
Who this suits
You do not need any therapeutic experience. Most clients arrive with none, and a few of them think the entire field is nonsense. What you need is a willingness to hear something you may be trying to avoid facing.
I hold a Ph.D. from the University of Michigan, specializing in Asian religious philosophy, and was a professor of philosophy at the National University of Singapore, teaching moral psychology and ethical theory. Then I resigned, and spent the better part of two decades on love, attraction, and relationships with clients from over 87 countries, alongside training in more than a dozen evidence-based modalities. I am a Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner, a Brown University Certified Leadership & Performance Coach, and an ICF Certified Coach.
Philosophy gave me the arguments about value, agency, and mortality. The years after gave me what philosophy could not, which is a deep examination and experience of the distance between what people say they want and what they actually do.
What it costs
Engagements begin in the tens of thousands and go into six figures. Whether that is expensive depends entirely on what the decisions and life in front of you are worth.
And you would not be buying hours. You would be getting someone who understands your situation, takes into account the rich complexity of who you are, has nothing riding on the outcome, and will tell you the truth at the moment it costs something to hear it.
How to begin
If you are ready to work with me privately, here is the structure, fit, investment, and application process in full.
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