Some children grow up in war zones, sleeping in shelters, surrounded by danger.
Others grow up in mansions with trust funds.
Yet the research is clear:
The first group often becomes more grounded, courageous, and emotionally stable…
while the second group can grow into anxious, brittle adults who look successful but feel empty inside.
The difference isn’t money.
It’s presence.

It’s easy to look at some of the biggest villains in history (both real and fictional) and assume that they were evil incarnate. It’s easy because it frees you from the burden that you could become just like them.
But pure evil doesn’t exist. In fact, so much of the evil you see in the world is just pain that’s been unexamined and unhealed, and then unleashed on others. That’s why history is riddled with the oppressed overcoming the oppressors and then doing the exact things the oppressors did to them to others.
This doesn’t only happen in politics or wars. It happens in your personal and professional life too. Wounded parts left unintegrated dish out the same wounds to others that caused them.
The solution isn’t blind kindness nor hardened cynicism. The only solution is to integrate them, and let each sword sharper the other. Or, as I like to call it, learning how to become a Hawkish Dove.

Most people say they support sexual freedom. But when a woman—or man—actually lives it… they turn on them. Judgment. Outrage. Moral panic.
So here’s the real question: “Can you be sexually free and morally good?” And if you can, why does it trigger so much shame in others?